Reach Out - Dayna Ciarfalia

Contact Me

I can’t wait to hear from you!

Hey mama! Glad you’re here. Have a question?

Feel free to email me and I’ll respond within 24-48 hours.

Be sure to read my FAQ page!

Follow along on Instagram

In recently reflecting deeper on my own childhood

In recently reflecting deeper on my own childhood experiences and current experience as a recovering people-pleasing, perfectionistic adult, I wanted to share this y’all.

Would love to hear your thoughts ❤️

-Dayna

#respectfulparenting #intentionalparenting #parentingtruths #parentingadvice #parentcoach #azparents #peoplepleaser #perfectionist #parentingwithpurpose #parentingwithintention #raisingkids

Today, my best looked like giving in to my 3 year

Today, my best looked like giving in to my 3 year olds demand for a waffle even though his dad made eggs for breakfast (because I was too tired to handle the tantrum that would ensue).

It looked like serving frozen chicken fingers and leftover French fries with apple sauce for dinner. It looked like loudly shushing my daughter when she was screaming at the dinner table and the noise was just too much.

It looked like giving lots of hugs, patience, and extra cuddles when my kiddos had big feelings at bath time, but also brushing his teeth for my son even when he didn’t want me to (and I mean, like really didn’t want me to).

It looked like not doing every single thing on my list because well, I’m done.

It wasn’t perfect, and I’m okay with that.

And on the days that my best downright sucks, I apologize to my kiddos and let them know I will do better next time and work on things I need to improve on (always a work in progress over here).

What did your best look like today?

#realmomlife #realmotherhood #parentingishard #parentingtruths #motherhoodinspired #respectfulparenting #momlifeishard #momguilt

Love you, mean it 🤍 And so do your kids. #you

Love you, mean it 🤍

And so do your kids.

#youareenough #iamenough #momssupportmoms #motherhoodquotes #honestmotherhood

Raise your hand if this hits home for you 🙋🏻

Raise your hand if this hits home for you 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏼‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏿‍♀️

It does for me, too. We are ALL on our own path to healing, and everyone’s looks different. But so many of us, especially mamas, struggle with the same types of patterns - the ones in which we tend to put everything and everyone else ahead of ourselves.

Breaking patterns isn’t easy, but the mountain is absolutely climbable. Little by little, we take steps toward leaving old ways of being behind and step into a version of ourselves that’s always been in there, but was in hiding.

What patterns have you identified that you’re working to shift?

#childhoodtraumasurvivor #emotionalneglect #consciousparenting #peoplepleasing #intentionalparenting

From a super young age, so many of us were told th

From a super young age, so many of us were told things like:

“Stop crying!”
“It’s not a big deal!”
“Get over it!”

So, we learn to do just that. We learn to repress, disregard, and minimize our feelings to make others more comfortable. It makes sense then, that when our kids have intense emotions we’d feel like we should be sending those same messages. Our bodies may feel like it’s not safe for us or our kids to be experiencing emotions like this because it wasn’t safe for us to do it.

We can consciously rewrite the script, y’all.

We can, little by little, start acknowledging when we feel things and, instead of ignoring it, we can admit that “I feel angry right now and that makes sense.”

We can choose to SEE ourselves in our upset and work to get comfortable allowing ourselves to sit with and move through the discomfort.

Every single time we show up for, see, and empathize with ourselves, we reprogram our brains a little bit more to not be afraid of feelings. That we are safe to experience them. Even better if we can slowly allow ourselves to be seen by those we love while we are in pain, something that feels like the scariest thing on the planet for so many of us.

Working to fully be with ourselves during our emotions allows us to free up the space to do the same with our kiddos.

If this feels especially difficult for you to tackle on your own, I HIGHLY recommend finding yourself a therapist that can help you feel safe in doing this. Sometimes, the presence of a supportive, unbiased human is just what our nervous systems need to allow us to release and finally see that it’s safe to do so.

How many of y’all have a therapist or have worked with one!? 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏼‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️

#momprobs #emotionalneglect #healingmyself #consciousparenting #mymotherhood #parentingcoach

Felt called to share this tonight. We are all dea

Felt called to share this tonight.

We are all dealing with hard things right now. Every single one of us. Sometimes we feel like something needs to change, something’s gotta give, that we must be doing something wrong.

Sometimes, things are just hard, and learning how to navigate that while also finding joy feels impossible some days. That’s okay. You’re not alone, I promise.

Let’s get real — How does life feel for you right now?

#lifeishard #pandemiclife #parentingishard #hardtimesmakestrongpeople #momlifeishard #tiredmama #stressedmom #exhaustedmom #toddlermommy #lifewithkids #backtoschool2021 #burnedout #honestmommin #hardknocklife